Are you drawn to Steady Freddie? A modest, reliable family man?
The guy who quietly repairs the widow’s porch, volunteers at the food bank and
serves as a deacon in your church?
If so, chances are you never back-talked your teachers or
took sick leave unless you were at death’s door. You’ve probably already created
an Excel spreadsheet for the party you’re having next month.
You and Freddie are Builders, and you’ll make a great team. He’s
probably an administrator in the military or possibly an accountant. You’re on
the board of several charities, always looking for ways to give back to the
community. Your children will be well-mannered; your home a safe haven of efficiency.
What could possibly go wrong?
According to Helen Fisher’s book Why Him? Why Her? the
test group contained 28.6 percent Builders, however, there were fewer Builder
men than Builder women, so competition for Freddie will be fierce.
Builders find routines comforting and these repetitive
actions increase serotonin levels. Your even keel is the product of serotonin,
however, an imbalance can lead to obsessive compulsive disorders including
hoarding.
Every coin has two sides so look long and hard at your
potential hero. Beware of morality that borders on legalism. Don’t let loyalty
to his mother trump his responsibility to you.
In order to be his heroine, guard against becoming hypercritical--let
him fold the towels the “wrong” way. Don’t hold his faults up as worse than
your own and keep your eyes on the future. Wallowing in past regrets or
pessimistic thoughts is a romance-killer.