Thursday, November 14, 2019

The Explorer

You’ve met that guy – the daredevil who loves skydiving, whitewater rafting and talks of climbing Mt. Everest.

Maybe you’re a bundle of energy, always trying new things – from exotic foods to worldwide travels. Or perhaps you only dream of those things – circumstances forcing you to seek your adventure through voracious reading and trips to museums.

According to Helen Fisher in her book Why Him? Why Her? The Explorer personality made up 26 percent of her test group with a slightly higher number of males.  

Driven by dopamine, a brain chemical that controls reward, pleasure, movement and emotions, Explorers are novelty seekers and risk takers. They are energetic, creative, generous, optimistic, autonomous, liberal, daring and curious with a wide variety of interests.  

Depending on your personality type, that may sound exhilarating or terrifying.

If this describes the hero of your dreams, pause a moment to consider the downside. This is the man most likely to become bored and restless in a marriage. His impulsiveness may lead him to blowing the rent money on a get-rich-quick scheme.

We are fearfully and wonderfully made, a complex mixture of neurotransmitters, electrolytes and hormones, to name a few. Just as an imbalance in insulin can cause a diabetic coma, an imbalance of dopamine can cause several problems including, Parkinson’s disease, bipolar, schizophrenia, addiction and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.

Warnings aside, is he a match? 

If he’s a pure Explorer – this is a case where opposites DON’T attract. A quiet homebody would bore him to death. On the other hand, if you’re an Explorer yourself, seeing every challenge in life as an adventure, this may be the perfect match for you. An important consideration would be the secondary personalities of you both.

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